She's Ethan Slater's ex-wife, of course, but there's so much more to her that that! Lilly is a clinical psychologist specializing in perinatal mental health and child development, based in New York City.
Since October 2024, she's been a licensed clinical psychologist at Prospect Psychology, while also holding the same role at MindWell Center, LLP since August 2023, according to her LinkedIn bio.
Lilly graduated from Amherst College in 2014, pursued psychology studies at Columbia University from 2014 to 2015, and earned her doctorate in psychology from Long Island University in 2020.
Lilly Jay and Ethan Slater married in the fall of 2018, welcomed their first child together in the fall of 2022, and separated by mid-2023, marking the end of their five-year marriage. Their divorce was finalized in 2024. In her essay for The Cut, Lilly revealed that Ethan was her high school sweetheart, and she never imagined she'd one day be divorcing him.
While Ethan and Lilly had managed to keep their lives divided and together at the same time, somewhere along the way, that line of division became too wide to close.
Although she knew Ethan's life was very much in the spotlight due to his work, Lilly took steps early on to protect her privacy so she could flourish in her own career. She even deleted her Facebook page the week before her 18th birthday.
Lilly explained the importance of keeping her private life separate from her professional one, saying, "By reducing the white noise of personal information, or self-disclosures, therapists provide patients with a unique opportunity to feel connected to another person by care alone."
But somewhere in the mix, things shifted. While many are quick to point fingers at Ariana for breaking up a happy home -- especially as she was separating from her husband, Dalton Gomez, at the time -- there are still missing pieces to this puzzle. Nevertheless, the divorce took Lilly by surprise. She admits she never thought she'd be divorced, "especially not in the shadow of my husband's new relationship with a celebrity."
What's done is done, though, and now Lilly is focused on moving forward with her life and career. Through her essay, she extends an apology for having her personal life "pryed" open. "So consider this essay my message in a bottle sent out to sea to maybe wash up at my patients' feet someday: I'm sorry I can't be invisible anymore (really, more than you know, I'm sorry)."